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Not So Sexy™

A bi-weekly podcast that makes sex easy to talk about. Alexander - Creator and host of Not So Sexy realized that he didn't really know anything about sex. He was having it, enjoying it, but not really understanding how it affected him or the people he cared for. Not So Sexy was a way, and a response to, a world where he saw people being hurt and confused because of sex. Either they didn't know how to talk about it, felt shame because of the things or people they liked, or found themselves in an out of control situation. He hopes that through humor, honest dialogue, and a his own personal journey others can grow and realize how truly beautful and sexy they are. Not So Sexy Bio: Not So Sexy is a bi-weekly podcast that makes it easy to talk about sex. Each week it brings on comedians, sex experts, parents, sex workers, and everyone in between to discuss the gross, nasty, beautiful, sexy, and not so sexy topics related to anything about sex.
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Oct 18, 2023

We are back with Season 4 of Not So Sexy! We hope over this very long break you've been falling in love, getting your back blown out, and having messy breakups. Everything that means you're alive. 

 

This week we spoke with Amy Taylor, a high end sex worker. She talked with us about working for billionaires, what she would do if she could change the laws for sex work, how she manages to stay safe, and gives some advice for anyone wanting to do this kind of work. 

 

 

Apr 15, 2019

This week we interview Angela, a sex therapist.  She talks to us about how to have the best sex, what it means to be in an abusive relationship, and shares with us details about her divorce. Even an expert in relationships can sometimes get it wrong. It's always good to remember that.

 As always if you have questions, comments, etc - email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com 

Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross 

Check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

 

Mar 24, 2019

How many of you think sex workers are "Ladies of the Night" or have only experienced them through movies and TV? If you're like "Yup, that pretty much sums it up for me" then you and I are on the same page. This week we talked to Rose Love who is a sex worker. She tells us about her dating life, how she interacts with clients, she gives us insight into the profession (and it is a profession) and she reminds us to love ourselves.

 

 As always if you have questions, comments, etc - email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com 

Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross 

Check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

 

Mar 5, 2019

What would a sexually liberated, zero shame, totally sexy group of people look like? Think leather, tons of leather. This week Not So Sexy goes on location to a premier erotic art show - Naughti Gras. We touched soap that looked like a dick, got spanked, and talked to people about all things sex.

 

As always email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com 

Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross and check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

Feb 11, 2019

How much hair is too much hair? How often should you shave or is going full Brazilian too far? This week on Not So Sexy we explore these questions and more. Also, our host Alex now has to go get a Brazilian wax which he may or may not live stream ;).

 

As always email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com 

Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross and check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

Jan 29, 2019

Power - that is a big word in our lives. On this episode of Not So Sexy we explore what power means in relation to sex. How it affects how we couple, how it affects our interactions with other people, how it even affects our bodies.

What does power mean for you? Do you feel powerful in your life, relationship, during sex?

As always you can reach out to us on NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com 

Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross or message us on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast. We'd love to hear from you.

 

Jan 16, 2019

Do you ever struggle asking for what you want? What about when you’re in front of the person you’re about to have sex with? Asking for what you want during sex can be really tough. It can be uncomfortable 😳😳😳. But you can’t get what you want when you’re not asking for what you need 🥰.
This week’s Not So Sexy Episode “As you like it: Asking for what you want before, during, and after sex”. It’s easily the sexiest episode we’ve ever done. 

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And email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com with your questions.

Jan 2, 2019

Herpes can be a scary thing but it's surprisingly common. Yet, it's not talked about except in hushed whispers and angry texts like "DID I GET THIS FROM YOU".

But herpes shouldn't be so scary. You can get it without an outbreak or from having penetrative sex. Instead of making fun of it and not talking about it our guest, Emily, decided to dive deep and discuss her life after she found out she had herpes.

Our guest explains how they got herpes, what happened when they found out, and how they're trying to bring it out into the open. 

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Twitter @WeKnowItsGross

And email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com with your questions.

 

Oct 18, 2017

Dave Nadelberg, the creator of the Mortified show and podcast, talked to us about current projects, his past masterbation techniques, and his loves - past, present, and future. 

 

Jun 18, 2017

This week we bring on the zen master Andy to talk about when to say that huge four letter word L.O.V.E. It's, like most things, layered and complex. 

We struggle to find an analogy, we show how much Alex really needs to calm down, and we talk about spears. 

Also check out LELO our sponsor. They make incredible and beautiful sex toys. For weeks we've been trying them out. https://www.lelo.com/

 

Jun 6, 2017

Guys, this week for Not So Sexy we brought on the most wonderful human being (and dating novice), Megan. Kit, Megan and I talk about putting yourself out there, and the pain of flirty first impressions.

May 7, 2017

How much do you know about BDSM? Do you think it's the dark world of sex that only the brave and masochistic dare to go? Well this week on Not So Sexy™ our guests give us the break down of BDSM. We find that it's a community of people that deeply care about consent and communication. 

 

 

 

 

Apr 19, 2017

Breakups are hard, Katie makes them easier. 

 

Mar 27, 2017

Do blue balls exist? Can HIV get through condoms, are married couples having less sex? All these questions and more we answer this week on our Sex Myths episode. 

 

Thanks to everyone who send us their myths. 

 

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Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com

Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross

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Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy

 

Mar 13, 2017

This week Not So Sexy brings on Joyce to talk about her experience being pregnant and being into porn. 

 

Check us out via these social media feeds 

Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com

Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NotSoSexyPodcast/

Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy

 

Feb 26, 2017

There are SO  many ways to stay safe before, during, and after sex and we talk about all of it!

This week we bring on the lovely Kate Rose to talk about her experiences using the pill and contraceptives. 

 

Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com

Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NotSoSexyPodcast/

Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy

 

 

Feb 12, 2017

WE. ARE. BACK! Season two mofos! We brought Charles into the studio to talk about Red Flags. These are the things we should take notice of from the people we're dating, like being SUPER IN LOVE WITH Vin Diesel. 

 

Check us out on Twitter @Weknowitsgross

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You can make a donation to the show at Paypal.me/NotSoSexy

 

Dec 19, 2016

Have you been caught?

This is our final episode of season one of Not So Sexy. We talked about that very human activity, masturbation, with Bernard. He's a really great human and has touched himself, a lot. 

Get in touch

Facebook - We love when you message us your stories. 

Twitter - Tweet at us @weknowitsgross

Gmail - notsosexypodcast@gmail.com

 

 

Dec 10, 2016

Have you ever done something gross during sex? So gross that it shut it down? Well you're not alone. We brought Sid into the studio to tell us his gross and poignant story about love, acceptance, and vomit. Warning: This episode is kinda gross and heartwarming all at the same time. 

 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Nov 29, 2016

Did you ever walk in on your parents having sex? So did we! 

This week we bring in Carlo to talk about being a parent and the struggles of finding time to get nasty when you have children running around opening doors all willy nilly. 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

 

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms.

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Music We used

Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Other Music used - MTBRD - Fanfare feat. Flamingosis

Nov 15, 2016

Oh man. Sex Ed, what a time to be in school. Seeing the inside of your parts, seeing the inside of other people's parts. Learning about how your body changes and why it's going to be even grosser. 

We brought on Daria, Duria, Dilza? And Rob to talk about their sex experiences. We also recorded this the week before the election so our political commentary might be a little dated. 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

 

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms.

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Music We used

Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Other Music used - Susie Cues 

Nov 8, 2016

Shame, hoohah, what is it good for? Absolutely nothing. Get it! Like the song...

Whatever, you get it. This week we bring on Jodi and Brandon and talk about the shame and embarrassment we felt around sex, our bodies (of course), and everything else. 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

Period Coloring book - Check out our friends period coloring book. Our friend Andrea Yip made it and Christmas is coming! But seriously it's so thoughtful, humorous, and wonderful. 

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Music We used

Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Oct 30, 2016

Who is the winner when it comes to a breakup? (Hint, not us).

This is a special episode. Kit and I sat down with each other and talked about some significant breakups in our lives and how they've affected us. We also talk about that classic idea that there are winners and losers at breakups. 

 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

 

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms.

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Music We used

Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Other Music used - MTBRD - Fanfare feat. Flamingosis

Oct 23, 2016

What did you wish you had known before you had sex? 

We bring in Logan and Darian this week and probably like you, were totally unequipped with before we started having sex. So many emotions, so many fluids. Who knew! We didn’t...

 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

 

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms.

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Music We used

Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Other Music used - “Good Times Roll" Griz + Big Gigantic

Oct 17, 2016

This week we brought on Ainslie and Ken to discuss when they feel sexy. Ainslie has some experience in that arena as she was a former stripper and Ken, well he's a fuck machine (his words, not ours...ok ours). 

Feeling sexy is how we look at ourselves and how we're treated by others. Shocker? Probably not. 

As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. 

Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

Resources

Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan

It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).

Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. 

Here are some other resources to check out.

The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms.

Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

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